Scoring High at The Dating Game

You are going out with a special person this Saturday night. You have goose pimples and everything with the thought of the dating game that is coming. Here are some easy ways to score high at the dating game. None of these tips will cost you the Earth.

Keep That Self-Esteem High – This is an extremely attractive quality in any date. Think, would you like to go out on a date with someone who has a high self-esteem or someone who has none? Go ahead and love yourself. It is what you need to do before you can love somebody else. Be that magnet by loving yourself.

Respect Your Own Individuality – Each person is special individually. Everybody has his or her good and bad points. To love yourself you need to respect you own individuality. Either your date will love you or he/she wont. Either way, do not try to change those things that make you special. In fact, bring your individuality to the fore. Trust me you will survive it.

Use Visualization Tools – Visualize yourself as oozing an air of quiet confidence. Start days before the date. The visualization should be for before, during and after the date. As a result of the visualization you will find yourself more confident and on top of things. Try it. It works for me every time.

List The Things That Make You Feel Confident and Special – Are you very good looking? Do you have beautiful eyes?  Do you have a hotshot job at an up and coming company? List the things that you have going for you. Make a mental note of them and use them to feel confident and good about yourself on that big night. The dating game is one that uses confidence as a primary weapon. Confidence also lends you a sense of humor and everything else falls into place. Think of the things that make you feel confident and special as you go out for that big night.

After You Have Reminded Yourself What Makes You Wonderful, Keep It to Yourself – Once you have listed out your special qualities, keep it to yourself. There is no need to go and broadcast them to the outside world. Let the thought of these qualities keep you glowing on that special date. Let your date make those special discoveries about you himself/herself. As your date discovers your special qualities inadvertently, make a note of how your confidence soars.

Look At Your Shortfalls Positively – Every shortcoming within yourself has a positive aspect to it. If you are slightly heavier than average, your date may find it to be a sign of indulgence and view that positively. Hair loss may be viewed as a sign of virility by some dates. As long as you are funny, smart, kind and considerate, most of your shortcomings are likely to be viewed in a positive light. Remember this as an important part of the dating game.

Do Not Have Over-expectations From Your Date – If you are paunchy, do not over-expect something from your date in the looks department. If you do not have that hotshot job yourself do not expect your date to arrive in a brand new Jaguar. Nothing is a bigger turn off than this. Try to like your date for him/her. Do this if you would like to be liked for yourself as well.

Do Not Stereotype Your Date – All women are not overly emotional and in a hurry to get married. Not all men are afraid of commitment. Try to clear your head from all the stereotypes the media has created in your mind. Try to understand your date as a unique person and show him/her the uniqueness within you as well. Try this. I have found it very useful in getting to know the date personally and scoring high in the dating game.

It Is Just A Date – not a job interview. Do not look at your date as a potential spouse as it adds too much pressure to the dating game. Look at him/her as a person you would like to get to know better. This takes off much of the pressure from the dating game. You can break the ice with a compliment that is not too deep like "You look hot in those pants". Instead, use as little distance when giving a compliment something like – "Nice bangles." Like with every other relationship in life, treat your date as you would like him/her treat you. This is the most important point for success in the dating game.

No Sex On A First Date – It is a good idea to stay away from sex on the first date with somebody. For one this help you keep away from diseases when you do not know the person. On the other hand, sex feels much better when you already know and like the person. Having sex on a first date creates all types of interpersonal complexities that are best stayed away from. Go for sex after you know that you are both healthy and like each other. This will give you a much better sexual experience.